You're Only Limited By The Limits You Create
Your inner critic packed more than just an over night bag and is determined to stick around for the long haul.
The internal chatter is constantly reminding you of your faults and failures and until you figure out why, they will be a battle FOREVER!
Your inner critic can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
You can try to silence the monster within your mind by pretending they don't exist.
You can try to silence the monster with positive affirmations.
But as quickly as you say those affirmations...your brain thinks BULLSHIT!
It is time to EMBRACE the critic and change the conversation!
Stop trying to silence the voices and embrace them.
More and more everyday I have become more familiar with my critic and it has secretly become my biggest inspiration.
EVERY TIME I THINK OF ALL THE REASONS I CANNOT DO SOMETHING, I CREATE A LIST OF TWICE THE NUMBER OF REASONS WHY I CAN!
I GET SOLD ON MY ABILITY TO ACHIEVE GREATNESS!
And the commitment to follow through!
After hours of research I realized they all focus on silencing the chatter but I'm all about embracing it.
Your faults make you human!
They build character!
STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT!
You can't just wish a problem away! You gotta work towards making a change.
Some changes happen faster than others but CHANGE GON COME!
DONT FOCUS ON THE PROBLEM!
BECOME A PROBLEM SOLVER!
3 Tips to Embrace Your Inner Critic:
I've watched enough Chick Flicks to know in order to beat your competition, you must study them first.
Figure out why you are having these doubts!
Open your mind and acknowlegde when these doubts come foward.
- I'm not good enough.
- I'm a bad mom.
- I can't possibly do that.
- It will never happen, so why bother.
What are you doing that these thoughts are coming up?
Either professionally or personally, we all have negative chatter that tends to hold us back until we decide to break free!
Get to the root of the problem.
Figure out why these doubts keep showing up.
Once you find out WHY, accept it and begin to make changes.
2. Find Evidence
In order for something to be true. You need to find proof.
You don't just believe something because one person said it...you must TEST the theory!
Find evidence in your life that these faults are in deed true.
In my personal experience...they never are!
So I've decided to created a Rockstar portfolio and listed my strengths. When doubts show up in my life, I pin point my strengths and how they can apply to the situation!
Think about all the things you are EXTRODINARY at!
You get what you focus on. So now that you know WHY these doubts are popping up, choose to focus on your kick ass attributes.
3. Change the conversation:
Jim Carrey once said "You can fail at what you don't want; so why not do what you desire"
I decided to change my internal chatter: So Fucking What meter has grown!
Who cares if you fail!
Oh course it will hurt and I'll be disappointed but disappointment is apart of life!
Failure is inevitable!
The choice is yours how you react to failure.
You have to keep pushing!
I remember applying to my safety college and getting rejected!
I've applied for jobs I was over qualified for and didn't get it!
So my message to you WHO CARES! Do whatever you want!
Embrace the thoughts and prove them wrong.
You will always have doubts and fears but they must take a back seat to your actions!
You are PERFECTLY INCOMPLETE!
Embrace your flaws and Step Up Anyway!
SHOW UP ON A CONSISTENT BASIS and RESULTS WILL FOLLOW!
Life is simple.
The sooner we accept that THOUGHTS control our REALITY, the easier our lives will become. The mind is a powerful instrument, and you can begin to program your thoughts to manifest your life you desire.
Ever notice how your mind will formulate a negative result, and somehow it plays out exactly as you imagined?
Crazy right! The situation plays out in your mind with vivid details as if, it's already happening and now your mind/body is gravitating towards that outcome.
So why not visualize the best possible scenario?
You know the one where you get your dream job!
Or the hot guy from the coffee shop finally asks you on a date!
Or you win front row tickets off the radio to see your favorite band!
You have the power to control your destiny, and you are throwing it away with negative chatter.
A positive mindset can do no harm.
Allow yourself to get lost in a daydream. Envision your perfect life and forget about HOW things will happen. Just focus on the kick ass life you want to have.
Your thoughts PAINT your future. Change how you speak to yourself and watch how your life shifts for the better.
Remind yourself on a consistent daily basis that you are loved, worthy and deserving.
So often we spend all of our time catering to the desires of everyone in our lives that we forget to refill our cup!
Everyday spend time manifesting the life you want to be living. Speak your desires into existence.
The more you build a connection with your dreams, the easier it will be for them to become your life.
Speak from a place of assurance. Believe without a shadow of a doubt that this is POSSIBLE! Act as if you are already living this reality.
Remember: You get what you are, not what you want.
When a supermodel walks into a casting call, she walks in confidently with her head held high and a sort of arrogance about her that lets you know, she believes in herself. She has no doubts in her mind that she will get this part!
Embrace your inner SUPERMODEL!
You need to embody the person who has already received their blessings and miracles.
Cut out the negative chatter and replace them with positive affirmations and gratitude.
If Serena Williams told herself that she wasn't good enough to be an Olympic Gold Medalist, do you think it would have gotten that far in life?
Serena believed she had what it takes and even though she grew up poor, she never allowed her environment to determine her future. She had faith and did the work and is now living out her WILDEST DREAMS.
ACCEPT that your thoughts generate your reality and change the conversation with yourself. Once you shift your mind, your brain will begin to form a connection with your dreams.
You will be able to figure out the HOW because your thoughts fixate on this vision and the mind will expand becoming more creative and innovative to devise a strategy to make your desires come true.
Every day speak your goals into existence and embody the characteristics of a person who has already achieve this dream.
Guess what...that is the secret to success.
Donald Trump believed he could be the President of the United States...IT HAPPENED!
Oprah Winfrey believed she would be a TV host...NOW she's the most powerful women on TV!
Now it's time for you to believe in YOURSELF because YOU ARE WORTH IT!
You must decide who you want to be and the rest will fall into place. The universe will expose you to opportunities you never imagined.
Your thoughts control your life. Your mind listens to your ideas and plants the seed and the seeds grow into whatever you think.
So be kind to yourself. DREAM BIGGER. SPEAK POWERFULLY.
Now that you know your thoughts become your reality...HOW WILL YOU THINK ABOUT YOURSELF?
Have you ever noticed when you go to the Beach or Pool, and the water is cold, you slowly dip your body into the water?
You start off with a toe to test things out than a foot then both feet. Now your dancing around kicking water, meanwhile your top half is completely dry!
OH BOY DOES THAT SHIT TAKE ALL DAY!
You start to watch EVERYONE else having fun! While you sit on the sidelines, trying to convince yourself to JUMP IN the water. You're worried about the chills that will come and avoid the bigger picture of finally having FUN!
If you're not going to be all in...why even bother?
Unless your one of those people who hate the water. If not why half ass it? The experience begins once your ALL IN!
Sometimes you just have to tie up your hair, hold your nose and JUMP!
RUN AND DO A CANNON BALL IF YOU MUST!
Five-second rule doesn't only apply to food:
Act quickly: the more time you spend thinking, the more time you will spend talking yourself out of things!
If you do not respond within the first 10 seconds, your brain will need twice the will power to move!
If you are 100% clear on your mission, you will instantly know if the action is in alignment with your goals! So there is no need to think things over!
You may be afraid of the unknown that until you try something new, it will always be unfamiliar to you!
So act fast!
Do not fear failure!
STOP THINKING OF THE WORSE CASE SCENARIO!
Growth comes when you drift outside of your comfort zone and face the unknown!
Jump into a sticky situation!
Get your hands dirty!
Try something new!
Draw outside the lines!
JUMP INTO THE WATER!
Comment below and let me know what action you will commit to this week!
I found the Greatest Love of All inside of me...(cues Whitney Houston Song)
Self Care is not Selfish.
Do you know where BABIES come from?
I mean of course you do but have you actually been apart of the birthing experience?
My best friend gave birth this week and it was one of the most beautiful experiences yet I was totally freaking out!
I was literally in the birthing room, holding her legs up and motivating her to keep pushing!
And although I have no idea what that pain was like but I felt she needed that extra support.
I was freaking out because it amazes me the amount of STRENGTH that we have as women!
It made me question where she got all of this strength!
When end in reality, she's always possessed it!
We all have! We just don't tap into it, as often as we should!
As she mustered up the strength to keep pushing, her energy transcended into my body!
If she can push out a baby, I can definitely run my business!
We are powerful creatures, who can bring life into the world!
We as women need to step into the power and strength we were given!
We are always looking for a sign and got damnit...HERE IT IS!
You don't need to wait until your back is against the wall.
You don't need anyone's stamp of approval!
You don't need to have all your ducks in a row!
You don't need to keep waiting for the "perfect" moment!
You have the strength to ACT NOW!
TAKE THE SHOT!
I am woman hear me ROAR!
You have 86,400 in your bank account and someone stole $10 from you, would you be upset and throw it all of the $86,390 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or are you just going to move on?
TOTALLY MOVE ON...
So I mentioned this to say, we have 86,400 seconds in EVERY DAY and we allow others to steal 10 seconds of our happiness and we focus 86,390 seconds trying to get back at them. Or even worse we allow seconds or minutes of unpleasure ruin our entire day!!!
You get stuck in traffic and now you walk into work with a bad mood and everything else seems to go down hill from there. Why do we spend so much time dwelling on what did or did not happen?
You woke up this morning and didn't go to the gym, so now your going to beat yourself up all day...feelings like a failure because you missed one day! WHY? WHY? WHY?
You didn't make it in the morning...what at home workout can you do as a substitute?
We need to stop focusing on the problem and look at the SOLUTION!
Acknowledge what has happened and MOVE ON!
You can not get your morning back, so why waste the rest of your day?
Do not allow others negativity dampen your day!
ONLY YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOICE HOW YOUR LIFE WILL GO!
STOP GRANTING OTHER PERMISSION TO CONTROL YOUR DESTINY!!!
YOU DETERMINE THE SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS!
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHOICE! SO MAKE A DECISION THAT YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR!!!
HOW WILL YOU USE YOUR POWER?